Dad makes fun of 27-year-old daughter's boyfriend, claiming his IT profession is “not a real job”, boyfriend walks out of dinner after daughter takes dad's side: ‘You owe my family an apology’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Sep 17, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Who knew how difficult it would be to date someone your father would fully approve of?

Maybe it's just my dad (and the dad in the story below, but we'll get to him in a second), but I never seem to find someone he completely approves of. There's always something wrong with the guy's job, family, or manners. There is simply not one person whom my dad deems good enough for me, which would be sweet if it weren't so annoying, you know what I mean?

At least my dad never insulted any of my dates to their faces, like the dad in the story below did. My dad has the common sense to subtly tell me what he thinks after the date has left. The dad in the story below, however, had no issues telling his daughter's boyfriend that he is just not good enough for her.

Why, you ask? Because the boyfriend works as an IT, and the dad decided this profession does not count as a real job. 

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  • The real shocker from this story is that the girlfriend refused to confront her dad for his harsh words, and instead demanded that her boyfriend apologize for walking out of dinner.

    Keep scrolling to read what happened next.

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    "Not the kind of guy I imagined for my daughter"
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    Am I overreacting for leaving my girlfriend’s family dinner after what her dad said?

    My girlfriend (27F) invited me (28M) to a family dinner to finally meet her parents. We've been together for almost a year,
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    so I wanted to make a good impression. Dinner started out fine- until her dad started asking me about my job.
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    I work in IT, and while it pays well, it's not some high- status career. After a few questions, he smirked and said,
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    "So basically you just sit behind a computer all day... not exactly the kind of guy I imagined for my daughter."
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    Everyone kind of laughed awkwardly. I tried to brush it off with a joke, but then he added, "Maybe someday you'll get a real
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    job so you can actually support a family." I felt my stomach drop. My girlfriend just said, "Dad..." but didn't defend me beyond that.
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    quietly excused myself, said I wasn't feeling well, and left. Later that night, my girlfriend texted me saying I embarrassed
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    her by walking out and that I should "just let it go" because her dad was "only teasing." I honestly feel disrespected and don't think
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    I overreacted. But now she's acting cold and says I owe her family an apology. Reddit, am I overreacting for leaving?
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    Couple fighting at home.
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    Merrik4t NOR - she just proved that her family is toxic and she's too cowardly to do anything about it. I'd bail on this relationship. The fact that she scolded you for leaving due to his horrible behavior is something else.
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    OP Mysterious-Notice419 Right?? I was/am soo mad at her bro. Like aren't we supposed to be a team...
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    No_Lavishness6896 Bro!!!!! This!!!!! This answer!!!!! Listen to this answer!!!!!!! You were just given the gift of time travel. This will be your life if you move forward with this girl. Her father undermining you as part of a toxic family environment and your girlfriend/future wife losing all respect after her father disrespects you behind your back and to your face. And.....and..... your girl feels disrespected by you? Uno reverse card played.
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    Stormfly16153 You deserve a partner who values you enough to stand up for you. I would explain that maybe in the past he's always acted this way and although she may see it as teasing, that you don't appreciate being talked to that way and having your career be minimized. Tell her it was disrespectful and if she would like this relationship to continue down the same path that you would like an apology.
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    OP Mysterious-Notice419 Good one I will tell her that yeah!
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    CAgirl1017 Not for leaving. But u definitely should talk to her in person and explain to her that it was awkward and u wish she had been more vocal w her support of u. Time to have a hard conversation about your finances, boundaries w her dad, and the negging that u were subjected to. It could go 2 ways... one, she's just as embarrassed as u are and hates that u were talked down to or two... she minimizes ur reaction and passively agrees w her dad's assessment.
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    OP Mysterious-Notice419 And if she does the second option am i right to rethink our relationship?? Yes right?
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    WTH_JFG No matter what Redditors's think, your ex-gf and her family think you overreacted.
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    OP Mysterious-Notice419 Yeah bro I know that.. i just want to know if i can have a valid crashout
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    SonjaSeifert the dad is a bu y. No way a kind person would behave that way the first time meeting his daughter's partner. She is used to the awful behavior and for some reason cannot see how bad it is. Her doubling down and complaining of you embarrassing her rather than her father embarrassing her is not a good sign.
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    InvisibleBlueRobot This s ks, but I would not have handled it this way. He wants to challenge your masculinity, I'd give it right back. Challenge his instead. Challenge his intelligence. Challenge his values. His notions of manliness. "Yes, I understand, technology isn't for everyone. My grandmother felt the same way as you. We used to laugh about it because she was old, didn't understand it and was stuck in the 1970's. I feel it's the perfect industry based on the reality of today's economy. Ch
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